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Suicide Support - where can I find help?

The subject of suicide and mental health can be very difficult to talk about, but due to recent high profile incidents, we felt that it was really important to post something to provide some support for people who are struggling with suicidal thoughts or know someone who is.

We wanted to say from the outset that if you are reading this post because you have, or have had, thoughts about taking your life, it’s really important that you ask someone for help. In reality its probably tough for you to see at the moment but you really aren’t alone and not beyond help or support.

People who have struggled with suicidal thoughts often say that the negative feelings were so overwhelming that they felt there was no other way out. Yet for many, support and treatment have enabled them to allow these negative feelings to pass. It may not be easy but support and treatment is available, you just have to take the first step and ask for help!

What are Suicidal Feelings?
These can range from a preoccupation with abstract thoughts about taking your own life, the sense that people would be better of without you around, right up to thinking about ways, or planning to take your own life.

These feelings will vary person to person, usually influenced by the following:
How intense they are - the feelings will be more overwhelming for some than others. They can also gradually increase or be overwhelming right from the start. Their severity can increase or decrease over time and the severity may change very quickly.
How long they last - sometimes suicidal feelings will be over very quickly, but could continue very intensively for a long period. Sometimes they will come and go but at other times they will be very prolonged.

Where can I get help?
If you need help there are a number of options available to you. You could:
* speak to a friend, family member or someone you trust (e.g. a church leader, small group leader, youth leader), as they may be able to help you calm down and find some breathing space
* call the Samaritans 24-hour support service on 116 123
* go to your nearest accident and emergency (A&E) department and tell the staff how you are feeling
* contact NHS 111
* make an urgent appointment to see your GP

Worried about someone?
If you are concerned that someone you know may be considering suicide you can try to encourage them to express how they are feeling. The best way that you can help them is by being available to listen. Try not to offer solutions or be judgemental, kind and gracious words and a listening ear will certainly help.

If they’ve had a mental health condition in the past, you may be able to speak to someone from their care team to get further help and advice. The NHS Choices website has some great advice, you can find that information here: http://jub.onl/2uALQKt 

The charity Mind have also put together a helpful booklet about how to help support someone who is feeling suicidal. It goes through subjects such as:
* What are suicidal feelings?
* How can I help someone with suicidal feelings?
* How can I help them talk about suicidal feelings?
* What’s a support plan?
* How can I support myself?
* Useful Contacts

You can download that here: http://jub.onl/2uwtwnq 

If you are supporting someone who is battling with suicidal thoughts, you should also seek out support and advice, you may find that supporting them is difficult and draining. You are not alone!

Some Useful Contacts

The Samaritans
Tel: 116 123

Samaritans is available 24/7, every day of the year. They provide a safe place for anyone struggling to cope, whoever they are, however they feel, whatever life has done to them. Please call their free phone number: 116 123 or visit samaritans.org to find details of your nearest branch.

Tel: 0300 123 3393

The Mind info line offers callers confidential help on a range of mental health issues. Mind helps people take control of their mental health. They provide high-quality information and advice, and campaign to promote and protect good mental health for everyone. They can also provide special legal services to the public, lawyers and mental health workers.

Helpline: 0800 11 11

ChildLine is a counselling service for children and young people. ChildLine can be contacted about anything - no problem is too big or too small. If you are feelings scared or out of control or just want to talk to someone you can contact them.

This article posted on behalf of the pastoral team at Jubilee Church Derby

Here is a really helpful resource which will help parents / carers of children in an online world (safely raising children in an online world): https://jub.onl/2MsuZGF 

NHS Choices Website - Suicide Page - Accessed 26/07/2017: http://jub.onl/2uALQKt 
This Morning - Suicide Prevention Helplines Page - Accessed 26/07/2017: http://jub.onl/2tCMpSM 
Mind Fact Sheet - How to support someone who feels suicidal - Accessed 26/07/2017: http://jub.onl/2uwtwnq